processing out loud

Today’s post doesn’t have a distinct theme or idea. It’s not a “how-to” or necessarily meant to be an inspiration. But one of the reasons I started this blog is because I want to share my heart. So that’s what I’m doing today.

As a stay-at-home-mom, and as an introvert (albeit an introvert who loves people), I have a lot of time on my hands to reflect. And honestly since I’m by myself a lot of the time (minus the 4 and 2 year old sitting on top of me), a lot of that reflection gets kept to myself. And I think that a lot of that gets lost when there’s no one to process out loud with.

That’s hard.

I start getting lost in those thoughts and thinking my ideas may not have merit because they’re all just stuck in my head with no validation from anyone else. When I step back I know that’s not true, but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel true on occasion, ya know?

I guess I want to speak to myself here, and maybe to you out there…someone who needs to hear this. Your ideas are valuable.

Your ideas are valuable. 

Had to say it again in case you missed it or didn’t believe me the first time.

You are gifted and talented in a unique way. Those gifts and talents aren’t going to look like the person next to you. And that’s a good thing. I am a unique expression of God’s image…the “Hannah” expression of Jesus.

As women and moms we so easily fall into the competition arena. What if instead of competing we supported? How different would this “mom world” be if we didn’t put all the pressure on ourselves to “do it all”. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again…if there’s one thing in my life I’m doing well, there’s something else I’m not doing well. I’m pumping out blog posts and art? My house is a mess. I’m doing a ton of photo sessions? I’m not spending as much time with my kids and husband.

I can’t create fabulous kid parties…I don’t really want to. Oh, but you do?? That’s awesome! I can’t wait to take my kids to it.

And I don’t have to feel envious or resentful towards your Pinterest-perfect crafts, because that’s not my gift. But I love that it’s yours!!

So many times I have another mom say to me that she just doesn’t know how I do all the things that I do. And I’m like…..huh??? I don’t know if it’s just because I share what I’m doing with people, or because a lot of what I do is coming from a place of creativity (painting, photography, blogging) so it’s a very visual thing. But I can almost guarantee that I’m not really doing that much. Not any more than any other mama out there. We are all doing the best we can. Everyone is just different.

Thank God, right?

So let’s just stop comparing and focus on what we do and what our own gifts are. And just be appreciative and encouraging of other people’s talents and what they contribute to this world.

And if you don’t have people around you that support you and build you up, go find you some people. I will be your people. I will be your cheerleader.

God has made us with the need for community. If you’re a Christian, you are a part of the body of Christ, right? A body has hands, feet, big toes, pinky toes, knees, shoulders. And we can’t be it all on our own. If you’re the big toe, find a pinky toe, and the other 3 toes to go with you (do those have names???). Find the shoulders. Find people who are like you, and people who aren’t. But find people who get you and love you and support you and challenge you.

That’s one of my hopes for this mom-blog community…that we could rally together and build each other up. I would love it if you would share this post or page with someone and offer them your own encouragement. Tell them something you love about them and appreciate about them. That’s my challenge to you this week! Share this post and tag a friend on Facebook or Instagram and send some love to someone in your life. God knows we could all use some more of that!

Sorry if this was a little all over the place, guys. But, ya know, it’s my blog so I can do what I want 😉

Sending lots of love to you, friends! I am thankful for you.

xoxo, Hannah

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  • Shawna - Thanks for this, girl 😊 I’m thankful that I don’t have to compete with your gifts of creativity! 😂ReplyCancel

  • Alesha - Thank you for sharing your heart. I agree completely about surrounding yourself with supportive friends. My robber of joy when my children were really young was my own idealism. This was even before Pinterest was a big I can’t blame them. If I could do it all over, I would cut myself some slack and enjoy the journey more. I look forward to reading more from you!ReplyCancel

    • Hannah // Lugimom - Crazy how we can be our own worse enemy! Glad you are able to realize that now 🙂 thanks for sharing!!ReplyCancel

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