I talk a lot about parenting, motherhood, and girly things on this blog (mom blog is in the title after all). But today I want to spend some time talking about the men! Our husbands.
The Bible tells us in Colossians 3 to submit to our husbands (and husbands, love your wives). It’s painting a picture of a natural flowing relationship where we are loving each other well. Some days that’s a lot easier said than done, right?
A few weeks ago I was aggravated with Jonathan about something, so I walked into another room to get away. All the while my mind is going a million miles an hour and I can hear myself getting more and more aggravated as I go on and on with the complaints in my mind. Right then I heard God clearly remind me that “the enemy seeks to kill, steal, and destroy” (John 10:10).
Y’all, it is so true, and was so evident in that moment. The enemy is a deceiver and will wiggle his way in when we let him. So in that moment, I stopped all my crazy thoughts and complaints and instead started to pray for my husband.
Talk about an attitude adjustment.
Prayer can be a powerful thing, even if it’s just to redirect your thoughts and attitude in a given moment. So today I want to encourage you to pray for your husband! I’ve come up with a little 7 day guide to help you be intentional in your prayers.
Day 1 – Pray for his friendships
I feel like it can be very easy for women to make friends. We wear our hearts on our sleeves a lot of times, and we can almost always find anything to talk about. I think it can be harder for men. The truth is life is busy. Between work, family, and responsibilities, there’s not a ton of time to build friendships. But it’s so important. Our husbands need men in their life to encourage them and speak truth to them, and simply to just laugh and share life with. So today pray for your husbands’ friendships. Pray that he would make the time to invest in them, that he would be open and vulnerable with his friends, and that God would send good friends into his life.
Day 2 – Pray for his beliefs about himself, that he wouldn’t feel inadequate
I can’t imagine the pressure our husbands feel on a daily basis. They spend a majority of their day at work where they are pushed to do more and do better, and when they don’t there is usually some sort of reprimand or consequence. It’s easy for them to feel torn down and to beat themselves up. And a lot of days they come home to a frazzled wife that has been with crazy kids all day (maybe that’s just at our house haha). There’s not much of a break. The world puts so much pressure on men to be strong, be successful, be better. I’m sure that pressure is heavy and overwhelming for them. So today, pray that your husband will believe TRUTH about himself. That he’s a son of God who is completely loved and accepted just as he is. And that his worth is not tied to what he does (or doesn’t do).
Day 3 – Pray for him as he leads
Our husbands are meant to be the leaders of our families. I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty glad God didn’t assign that job to me! Our job is to support our husbands in that role. And what better way to do that than to pray. Pray that his spirit would be open and ready to submit to what God is showing him. That he would be wise in his choices and decisions. That he would choose to lead and live from Jesus and not his flesh.
Day 4 – Pray for his health
This one is pretty self-explanatory. We want our guys around for a long time! I’d also stop and pray for them to be able to make time for themselves. Life is busy! And sometimes they can put things like exercise on the back burner, which is hard on them and on us. And I don’t know about your husband, but mine has a hard time resting and slowing down when he’s sick, which means it takes him even longer to get healthy again. So pray for good health and the time to invest in good health!
Day 5 – Pray for his relationship with God
Your husband will have a hard time leading you well if He isn’t choosing to be led by God on a daily basis. Pray that your husband will make time for his relationship with God. That he would seek Him first in all things and lead from His prompting. Pray that He will continue to grow in the knowledge of Jesus and His love, and that He would be in constant communication with Him.
Day 6 – Pray for his dreams and hopes
I’ve talked about how important it is to find things in life that excite you and inspire you outside of your roles as wife and mom. Well this is important for our husbands too! Jonathan is always coming up with plans and ideas he wants to do. Sometimes they are a little far-fetched, but it is not my job to squish that or shoot him down (I can write a completely different post about that!). Pray that your husband WILL have dreams, and that he will feel inspired to follow them. Pray that he will find something he enjoys that can be an outlet for him. We were made to create, whether that’s something physical like art or something like friendships or a good golf game. Pray your husband finds that “something”, and encourage him in it!
Day 7 – Pray for his role as a father
Sometimes being a dad is hard. There’s a lot of responsibility there as well. Pray for your husband to trust God in His parenting, that he would have wisdom in tough situations and be able to have grace with his kids. Pray for him to be able to shut off his list of “to-dos” in life and be able to enjoy just playing. Pray for him to love as He is loved!
Let me know if you take on these 7 days of prayer for your man (I’m planning to!). Use it weekly and see how God changes your heart (and your husband’s) as y’all “do life” together.
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