Happy Monday friends! The last 2 weeks at the Lugibihl house have been a little rough. Nothing major has happened, we (Jonathan and I) have just been feeling drained! He’s been stressed at work, I’ve been stressed at home, and because we are both stressed it adds to the other person’s stress. Whew.
And I don’t know about y’all, but when I’m feeling stressed like that I tend to want to find all the reasons why and just stick all the blame on them.
I wouldn’t be so stressed if the kids would listen.
I wouldn’t be so stressed if I had gotten more sleep.
I wouldn’t be so stressed if I could get something done without getting interrupted.
I wouldn’t be so stressed if ______________ (I’m sure you can fill your own in the blank!)
The list goes on and on.
But in the midst of this stressful/draining time I’ve felt God whispering to me. Calling me to lean into Him. Revealing things about my own flesh that contribute to this feeling of stress and exhaustion.
The truth is most of these life circumstances won’t change, at least not any time soon. And if they do, there will just be more circumstances in their place.
So what do we do?
Being a mom is one of the many callings God has put on my life, and I’ve said it a million times…He intentionally gave me my children and He has already given me everything I need to be their mom. I just have to trust that He is who He says He is. I have to rely on His strength and His life inside of me. I have to obey what He has called me to do. I have to stop and breathe in the moments where I feel like a wave may wash over me, and call out His name.
Instead of blaming my circumstances, I can take a look at my own life and ask God to reveal areas where I am relying on my own strength instead of His (and there are a lot I am realizing!). I have to look at why circumstances are effecting me SO much that I feel like I’m going to lose it. I don’t want to lose it. I don’t want to go to bed at the end of the day wondering what is wrong with me and feeling like the worst mom. Who was that crazy person yelling at her two year old because he was screaming (cause that was super effective #noteffectiveatall)?! Why do I get SO mad when a 4 year old won’t listen?! He’s 4. He’s selfish. He’s probably not going to want to clean up a mess he just made. Chill out, lady.
All this to say, my frustration when it comes to parenting has a lot more to do with me than it does with my children. Ouch.
So how do we deal with that? Thankfully God gave us this entire parenting and life manual called the Bible. It’s a best-seller, you may have heard of it. On top of that we have the Holy Spirit who is pretty awesome at revealing truth and wisdom. So I wanted to go through and share some scripture that I look to when I’m struggling, in hopes that we all will be encouraged.
When I’m feeling overwhelmed
When I’m feeling unequipped
Philippians 2:13 – For it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.
Hebrews 13:21 – May he equip you with all you need for doing his will. May he produce in you, through the power of Jesus Christ, every good thing that is pleasing to him. All glory to him forever and ever! Amen.
When I’m struggling with how to love
1 John 1:19 – We love because He first loved us.
Ephesians 2:10 – For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
When I’m feeling frustrated and want to yell
James 1:19 – Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.
Proverbs 10:19 – When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable. But he who restrains his lips is wise.
2 Timothy 1:7 – For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and self-control.
When I feel alone
Matthew 28:20 – I am with you always, even to the end of the age.
And I think these just apply to all areas of our lives.
Colossians 2:10 – And in Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority.
1 Corinthians 2:16 – “For who has understood the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?” But we have the mind of Christ.
Translation: God is in us. He lives through us. We are complete. Trust and rest in that truth and let Him meet your needs and express His life through you!
Are there any verses you turn to in hard times? I’d love to hear them! Share some in the comments, and share this post with a mom friend who could use some encouragement (which is probably all of us haha).